Showing posts with label parenting. Show all posts
Showing posts with label parenting. Show all posts


What's Your Parenting Style ?

Published in ParentEdge Magazine, click here to read.

Last weekend I happen to attend a session on "Effective Parenting" by Dr Brunda Amrutraj - Clinical Psychologist, organized by Infosys for their employees and spouse. By all means, a productive employee needs to have a peaceful balanced personal life too, specially a full time working mother.

Initially, I was reluctant to attend this session as my needs are 'not special' after all and as a women I ought to know how to raise a child, atleast this is what society expects at the outset. But as we entered the auditorium seeing its full capacity I felt a little better as a women and far better as a  parent. Or was it an instant empathy drawn after seeing fellow victims of parenthood marred by nuclear family structure with aspiration to balance kids on the scale of career. 

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The ice-breaking question was inviting enough to break the silence of audience. "Why is it that parenting is really a big deal, now a days ? There are blogs, classes, counselling sessions, depression, stress all associated with parenting? Isin't the most ancient nurturing bond that comes to us instinctively"?  All of us said all sort of things, which were complementing to an extent but "overload" of information was zeored on as the main culprit adding stress in parenting. The overload of information and the constant quest of it to fix the problem, without actually going in depth of it.

Parenting is an art and skill.


Bean Bag Parenting and Ranting : Part 3

This is my state. I am bowled down by the googly of raising a child.
There is never a moment when I feel I am "man of the match". Never.
Will I be ever?
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I am learning each day or probably not learning enough, each day. And obviously, I need lots and lots, lots and lots of patience to sail through this unfathomable sea of parenting.

Won't just say motherhood.

It looks like I am a failure, every single time when my lil one don't reciprocate what I am trying to teach her. Be it anything, anything. She exactly goes in the wrong direction and do the "please-do-not-touch-it" thing with even more sheer vengeance.


Let's Save New Age Fathers

Most of the times, its a mother who steals the show in raising a kid, much beyond her biological capacity to reproduce. 

And, a man is solely seen as a breadwinner. With women taking reign of workplace plus running household chores, being a father is much difficult and obsolete. 

Why ?

Don't Wait for Father's Day !

We don't have to wait for this obligatory, western, compulsive celebration of Father's Day - to tell them what they mean to us. We don't wait for Christmas to meet, greet and laugh over a turkey. We don't take summer holidays to connect with each other. Actually, Indian parents never let their child off shoulders until their last breaths. 

Our love is best bespoken in small ways of care, 365 days.


Nuclear Family Boon or Doom ?

Do you ever feel that the pressures of "Nuclear Family" releases on a child's upbringing like losing temper, scolding, spanking, cranky all the time, feeling down for leaving job etc ? I am brought up in a joint family and so is my husband. And we often discuss about this? Is anybody on the same boat ? Is the grass really greener on the other side?